Do it with class and dignity.
As one popular love song goes, “There’s no easy way to break somebody’s heart.” And it’s true.
Depending on the way you break up with someone, you could end up causing even more heartbreak. You at least owe someone the decency of breaking up with them in person, instead of over text or email — or, even worse, having someone do it for you.
Luckily, as adults, you can still be respectful and prevent any further heartbreak.
Here’s how to end a relationship by being mature, straightforward, and considerate of their feelings.
1. Explain yourself.
Be sure that you have a proper explanation as to why you want to end the relationship. It’s not a good idea to leave a person hanging. It’s even worse to just leave them without even saying goodbye.
Keep in mind that the person that you’re planning to leave has been a part of your life and they deserve some respect from you.
2. Be honest.
Remember that you have to be honest. Don’t make up excuses that are far from the truth.
Excuses only complicate things in the future. It’s better to tell the truth because, at least once it’s all over, both of you can move on without any questions waiting to be answered.
If you’re afraid that telling the truth might hurt your partner, tell yourself that although the truth may really hurt, your partner deserves to know the whole truth and nothing less. If you got tired of them because they were boring and annoying, tell him or her directly. Don’t be rude in saying so.
The advantage of telling the whole truth to your partner is so they can work on their weaknesses and mistakes. And in the future, they won’t be faced with the same problems. Hopefully, their future partners won’t have to leave them for the same reason you did.
3. Be direct.
When you break up with a person, don’t be a tease. Don’t ever play with their feelings and emotions.
The moment you break up with someone, his or her heart will be very vulnerable.
4. Be firm.
Don’t be too nice and mushy because the person might think you still have feelings for them. Being too nice can give them the false hope that you might want to get back together at some point.
5. Be clear.
Directly tell your significant other that you are breaking up with him or her, and then clearly state your reasons.
Avoid laughing or smiling when you are stating your reasons. Learn to be empathetic because you really wouldn’t enjoy it if someone was smiling while breaking up with you.
6. Tie up loose ends.
Finish and solve all your unresolved issues while trying to keep the breakup civil and friendly. Emphasize clearly yet nicely the need for both of you to move on with each other’s lives.
Don’t sugarcoat your reasons because you will only end up not getting your point across. This will make your partner more confused than before.
7. Be brief.
Don’t dawdle. That would only add to the anxiety of your partner. If you want, you can tell them that you can still be friends, but that’s about it.
8. Be gracious.
Don’t forget to express your gratitude to your partner for the time you spent together. Admit that you shared some happy moments together, and that’s worth expressing gratitude for.